Not Hers to Carry

Is this You?

• You feel anxious before every family event.

• You over‑function at work but collapse at home.

• You second‑guess yourself, even when you’re right.

• You keep trying to be the ‘good daughter’ and it’s costing you your peace.

• You know you need boundaries — your body freezes when you try.

You’re not broken. Your nervous system adapted to survive. We’ll teach it safety.

What You’ll Walk Away With

• A regulated nervous system you can rely on.

• Boundaries you can hold without guilt.

• A clear plan for contact — low‑contact or no‑contact — that protects your peace.

• Language for hard conversations (scripts you can use).

• Relief from that constant “I’m the disappointment” loop.

• A future that’s yours — not hers.

Tell yourself - I am ready for this! 

Why this course works (when others didn't)

 Most advice tells you to “just set boundaries.” Helpful? Not really.
My method works at the level where abuse lives — your body.
We pair somatic healing + trauma‑informed counselling + Brainspotting tools with clear, practical steps. No fluff. Real change.

You’ll get: short video lessons, powerful nervous system practices, scripts, and weekly integration.

The 5-Week Pathway

Week 1 — Stabilise & Safety Map:
Build your Daily Calm Plan and map your nervous system. Learn fast resets for spirals, the traffic‑light + gauge check‑in, and start collecting glimmers of safety.
Deliverables: Calm Plan, trigger list, regulation tools.

Week 2 — See It Clearly & Stop the FOG:
Maternal narcissism 101. Gaslighting, guilt, obligation. Acceptance without self‑blame. Name the patterns so your body can stop bracing.
Deliverables: Clarity lines, self‑validation script, red‑flags checklist, contact continuum overview.

Week 3 — Boundaries That Hold (Scripts + Rehearsals):
Your non‑negotiables. Scripts for real scenarios (calls, holidays, drop‑ins). How to handle pushback, protests, triangulation and smear. Grey rock done properly. No JADE.
Deliverables: Boundary Bank (copy‑paste scripts), escalation ladder, Event Playbook v1.

Week 4 — Parts Work & Somatic Release:
Meet the parts that still carry the weight (IFS‑informed). Gentle re‑parenting and Brainspotting‑informed releases to unhook old triggers. Vagal toning, shake & settle, orienting. Rewrite the “I’m a disappointment” loop.
Deliverables: Re‑parenting plan, Emergency Kit for flare‑ups, Meet Your Inner Child.

Week 5 — Integration & Future Plan:
Design your contact plan (low/no). Finalise your Holiday & Event Playbook. Relapse‑prevention and after‑care routines. Support map, metrics, and next‑90‑days actions so this becomes your new normal.
Deliverables: Personal Contact Plan, Event Playbook v2, After‑Care checklist, Commitment letter.

Each week includes:

• Short video lessons 

• Step‑by‑step exercises

• Downloadable workbook pages

• Reflection prompts

• Optional community Q&A (live or recorded)